I like to watch people, and I like to speculate on what motivates people to do things.
I have very strong convictions about what is right for me. Please note I said “for me” . I am very opinionated, but not very judgemental. I can say that for me it is absolutely the right thing that I never ever have an affair. But…when someone tells me that they had an affair I don’t really think any less of them. I normally just note that it’s their life, and their choice. And I really mean that. Because I make certain lifestyle choices, I dont’ neccessarily think that they are the only choices that can be made.
So, I find it interesting that people who know me fairly well, always assume that I am in my head thinking badly about them for choices they make. Everything from big to little choices. Why would they think that? I cannot be quietly exuding an air of unacceptance, because I don’t feel that way. Is it because they think their choices may be wrong and they feel guilty and feel like they have to defend them, even if there is no need?
Okay, that was the judging part, now the sabatoge part. While I sit back and watch people sometimes I get little flashes into their personality. So, there is the one person who I have no direct interaction with at all, except I met him once or twice. And I hear comments that he makes to people, and to his friends. And I’m fascinated by how he very slyly and quietly sabatoges their lives! Things that they have that make them happy, he sends out these tiny little barbs to try and show that it’s really not that good. And I hear people talk about him and they say how cool and nice he is, and it makes me wonder why they dont’ see what he does.
So the moral of my post, 1 – don’t assume I’m judging you. I really don’t care that much! Live your own life and let me live mine and lets enjoy being different!
2. – don’t let your friends alter your perception about the life you lead. If you’re happy, just be happy! If something works for you, then to hell with the people who don’t think it should.
~unless you’re my child. Then do what I say without question at all times please.